On a deeper level, everything in the world is unified and everything is connected.
It’s like a vast consciousness, comprised of energy, and you’re not just a part of that consciousness, you are that consciousness.
Each of us is that consciousness.
And each of us creates our own personal world by filtering information through our perception.
And as we perceive something, so we create it. All fears, doubts, opinions, self-knowledge, knowledge about the world, about people that exist within us, will be reflected outside.
But what’s inside us is not the truth, but rather, falsehood.
The truth is that everything in the world is unified, that everything is one consciousness, and that each of us, being that one consciousness, is a creator of everything in our lives. Love is all there is in the world. Everything else is distortion.
How we choose to perceive ourselves, perceive others, what thoughts we choose to think, what we choose to focus on, what we choose to perceive, what we choose to think, that will be reflected in the external world and attracted by resonance.
Example:
You encounter a very obese woman on your way.
You think: “Oh God, she’s so fat, what a fat cow. How can one be like that at all? Why can’t she control herself and eat less, why can’t she go to the gym… It’s so simple and easy. It’s horrible to look at.”
Since everything in the world is energy, she felt your energy of judgment. In response, she might have mentally started judging you or looked at you with an unkind glance. Also, she started judging herself even more, adding to the previous self-judgments another layer of energy, making the self-criticism even stronger.
You met because you resonated.
You began to judge her because you judge yourself in some way, but you don’t notice it.
You reacted to her because she judges herself.
If you didn’t judge yourself while looking at this woman, you might have noticed something else. For example, if you loved yourself, you would probably see love in her. Maybe you would notice the color of her eyes or a beautiful purse or her hairstyle or how she speaks. But since there’s no love inside you, you can’t notice real love outside. You notice judgment.
This woman created you because she judges herself, and how we perceive something, that’s what we create in the external world.
And that’s how you’ll encounter people whom you’ll judge for something until you remove judgments within yourself.
At the deepest level, this is a misunderstanding of who we really are. In reality, we are creators; we are love. Everything is created by us; everything is love because everything in this world is unified, and everything is love.
If there are conflicts inside, there will be conflicts externally. If there is suffering inside, there will be suffering externally. You’ll create these external characters to show what’s inside you and heal it.
But to heal, you need to initially accept that everything is one, that you are a creator, that you create your life, you create absolutely everything, and everything is a projection of your judgments, points of view, expectations, knowledge.
Healing this perception of yourself, making a choice to think differently about something external, you’ll immediately see changes in the external world; others will stop transmitting and reflecting the same, they’ll start transmitting and reflecting something else. External events will start arranging differently.
As I mentioned, your perception creates external events.
If you think something is difficult, it will be difficult for you; if you think it’s easy, it will be easy for you.
But that’s not the truth; it’s just your opinion, your inner settings. It will work like a program that you created for yourself; you chose to use this program and rely on it.
But every person can make a different choice:
Choose to think differently
Choose to perceive differently
Choose to create something differently.
And this choice will create something else in your life.
In the context of that obese woman, you could consciously choose to think something good about her, for example, how beautiful she is, how sexy she is, how brave she is, how courageous she is, that she’ll manage everything perfectly. Since everything is energy, this woman would feel that energy, and she would blossom towards you. She would smile at you; perhaps she would want to come and talk to you; she would enjoy talking to you because she doesn’t feel the address of judgment.
This is our conscious choice of what to think about, what to focus on, and this choice creates every time, every day, every second.
Often, we choose to suffer just because there are programs that suggest that only through suffering we can gain something, we can gain experience, we can become better, but it’s not true; it’s just our choices to believe, that became our programs.
You can choose to gain experience through something good, through expansion, through manifesting yourself in the world, through giving love that is inside, and then reality will be completely different, a reality without suffering.
We choose it ourselves.
We choose what to think.
We choose which scenarios to play.
We make these choices, and these choices create everything in our lives.
Since we are everything, we already contain everything, both good and bad. We can choose fear or fearlessness; we can choose insignificance or courage and strength and perceive ourselves as such.
fake it till you make it. And as we perceive something, so we create it. And very soon, all of this will begin to manifest in the external world.
In the context of your wife, conduct an experiment and think of her as a goddess, as a cool, bright, sexy, charismatic, slender, beloved woman. Choose to think about her this way, and you’ll see how your perception of your wife changes, and you’ll see how her perception of you changes. you will feel it, your interactions will be on another level.
Yet, we prefer to cling to some old stories, but this is also our choice.
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