How One Advice Saved My Relationship and Changed My Life

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How One Advice Saved My Relationship and Changed My Life

These days many women write to me and ask me for advice, and that’s why I decided to share this publicly.

They get angry that men don’t understand them. I ask them, “Have you told him what you want?” And they say, “No, but he should know and have anticipated my needs.”

From a young age it’s drummed into both genders that there is one “perfect” person for us whom we will one day meet, and everything will be wonderful, and he will know us completely. While that’s a beautiful story, in real life things are not like that, and relationships are much more complex.

Eight years ago, when I met my partner, I had the same mindset, with a dose of unprocessed trauma and a little bit of madness. Almost every week we argued about something, and every month or two we had a big fight because I felt he didn’t understand me, didn’t want to meet my needs, didn’t really know me, didn’t care.

He told me then: “People are not clairvoyants who can read minds. You have to say what you want and what you need. I don’t mind doing it, but I have to know.”

From then on I started applying this not only in my relationship, but with everyone else as well. The effect for me was more than striking and impressive. Since then I honestly can’t remember having any conflicts with people. People actually want things to go well; they want to hear what you want and to fulfill it—of course, I’m talking about normal things, not manipulative ones.

I hope this post will be helpful to other people as well. And you—do you say what you want, and does it work out for you?

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I mean some are though…:smiley:

Very important message, thank you for this one :slightly_smiling_face:

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Yes, and then they expect even more that others can read their minds haha.

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What about the soulmate one?

Is that one too just something we were fed when we were younger?

That we need to find a soulmate? Can a relationship last even when it‘s not 2 Soulmates together?

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There are soulmates, but it’s not just one and they’re not perfect. Our soulmates are souls we’ve lived with in past lives and share love with, but even so, sometimes two soulmates may come into this life with different purposes and may not be able to be together. Or it may be not good for them.

A person meets at least 5–6 soulmates in their life who are suitable as partners, and twice as many who come as friends, colleagues, or family.

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But is „Destiniy“ to meet them? Do I before I incarnate choose that I will be for example with a specific Soul?

You say one meets 5-6 Souls, so we do end up with one for sure right?

Hope this is fitting for the thread :smiley:

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Yes, the meetings are arranged, and we will meet them, but whether we continue and what kind of relationship we have is our responsibility and choice—here, from Earth. Unless a child is meant to be born. In that case, the partners have a connection that may last forever, or it may fall apart once they’ve fulfilled their mission haha.

Overall, the control is in our hands, here. From above, we’ve only set some foundations and agreements.

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For sure you will end up with someone because these connections are very strong.

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Thank you!:slightly_smiling_face:

Very insightful!!

I bet I also chose some Soulmates to give me Lessons.

I bet it‘s the lessons that hurt the the most and bring the most change!

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Yes, that happens too, haha

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This made me smile because I had to say the same exact thing to my wife and then things got better :joy:

Men are simple creatures ladies. Think of us more like you would of a dog, for everyone’s sake hahahaha

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Dear Mai, Great Advise. I have the pattern of not telling the partner/friend what I need, I think this is because of people pleasing, and other patterns. Will do that from now on.

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This is good advice and backing this up by saying this works only on people who are willing to respect what you say and from people who actually stick to their words and not change it 50 times a week. Another thing I would say is treat the person you are in a relationship with as the person and not the lens you are accustomed to seeing/ wanting men/women as. Truth and Wisdom virtues are always helpful. :cherry_blossom::cherry_blossom::cherry_blossom:

No criticism for any gender- the human brain is used to observing patterns, concluding from it and putting it on subjects to either fit or check for deviations.

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This is a good practice and advice. Plus, sending the message via Mind Mail runs the risk of it being categorized as junk mail and never being received.

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