How Do You Find Yourself When Everything Feels Wrong?

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Hello, I’m a 26-year-old man, and to be honest, I feel like I’ve lost my sense of direction.

After my breakup with my ex-girlfriend, I went through a very heavy period that turned into depression. It was extremely hard to pull myself out of it, but little by little I’m starting to regain some stability. Now I’m trying to move forward and look for new hobbies so my mind doesn’t spiral into negative thoughts again.

Work, however, makes things worse. Most of the responsibilities fall on me, while my coworkers tend to avoid doing their share. On top of that, my workdays are long — around 12 hours — which drains me completely. By the time I get home and take care of basic household tasks, I’m already exhausted.

I’ve started reading books during my free time, but focusing is difficult. My job requires constant multitasking, pressure, and alertness, so my mind is always tense. I’ve also developed a habit of endlessly scrolling on my phone, which I know doesn’t help.

I live in a small provincial town with very limited opportunities. I want to move to a bigger city and finally work in the field I studied for, but that brings another challenge — fear of the unknown and of adapting to a completely new environment. On top of everything, people around me constantly give unsolicited advice on how I should live my life. It’s overwhelming, frustrating, and has left me even more confused instead of helping.

At this point, I feel lost and unsure how to organize my life or which direction to take.

The real question I’m struggling with is this: how do I reconnect with myself and figure out who I truly am again?

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Hey Bro welcome to the Forum!

I‘ve also read your other posts and it actually seems to me like you know what you must do :grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes:

I came out of a big downward spiral recently, because I started changing my habits to the better again.

I always come to the same realization in the End and it‘s always about Dopamine. And as I see you‘ve been using the field for that already👍🏽

You say you have a long term goal, which is awesome, but what you need is the Energy and drive to go after that goal.

For this you have to escape the Dopamine Trap first.

I had an addiction for smoking Shisha. I smoked everyday. And I couldn‘t stop. This habit drained all my Energy, because my Dopamine was fucked by it.

Noe I haven‘t done it for 3 months and I can finally Focus again.

Healthy Dopamine System= Drive and Motivation

This week I am also fighting against scrolling. I have turned my Phone into a dumb phone.

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This is my main Page for example. I also use color Filter to grey out the screen.

The damn phone is the biggest culprit in our lives!

If I was in your shoes I‘d focus fully on Energy first and then start looking into the causes for your situation.

I don‘t know how long you‘ve known about fields etc. but if you are new to all this you are in for life changing ride :laughing:

And if you are still Heart broken by your Ex then use this:

And I also saw that you are interested in the attraction field to get some more chicks I guess. If your Relationship isn‘t that long ago, I would advise you to not go into another relationship too soon.

Analyse why you broke up and search the Forum, for what your underlying problem might be.

There are so many things to consider. Bad subconscious programming, maybe Entities messing with you, Karma, Ancestral Problemsy

Fix those Problems and then start looking for girls again.

But follow your heart on this one.

If you want to find out who you truly are, you must get rid of all the noise that is caused by the outside world.

I‘m also not there yet, but last year I made huuuge progress thanks to Maitreya :flexed_biceps:t4::slightly_smiling_face:

I really feel like A huge Part of me is back and that‘s because I started fixing my relationship with my Parents. I‘m not done yet but will be soon :smiley:

And one more advice, If you‘re jacking off a lot, cut that down. You waste a lot of Energy this way. :grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes:

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When you regain your Energy, you will instinctively know what do do.

And it will be so fucking great especially as a man! You get to get shit done and finally be proud of yourself.

Society has screwed us so much.

I am 25 years old so you and me might have had similar Childhoods.

Masculinity had no place in my school. I was raised to be a little b*tch. And it felt so terrible. People were doing what they wanted with me and I had no Self-Esteem at all.

I treated women like goddesses and ended up in Friendzone everytime.

Then I completely shut myself off and started transforming myself into a man.

Just know that no matter at what low point in your life you are right now, you can always climb back up and become the Hero of your own Story.

If you need advice for the gym you can ask :flexed_biceps:t4:

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Yes, I was thinking the same — that dopamine might be the problem, and the team said the same thing, because for the last few months I literally haven’t felt any pleasure at all. I do things I used to love, and there is no enjoyment.

I thought about starting some kind of extreme hobby, like mountain climbing or buying a motorcycle, but I decided that this would probably make things even worse. I started riding pretty fast, got into trouble with the police, was fined very heavily, and now I don’t dare to do it anymore.

I’ll listen to the video you sent me — I hadn’t found it before. I think my love is already gone, but when I think about it, I still feel a sense of betrayal and I get angry.

I’ll figure out how to put my phone into that mode — I was actually thinking about buying a lock device for a while, where you can only make calls, but not access Facebook, Instagram, or other sites.

I was also wondering whether to use Reality Shifter, but I feel some resistance — as if I still don’t know what I want from here on. I’m also afraid that since I’m in such a bad state right now, I might attract negative things with the field. I don’t know if it works like that. Have you used it yourself?

When you say that I should restore my energy, what exactly do you mean? I saw that there are some Chinese series for this — is that what you’re referring to?

I’m sorry that you’ve also gone through things like this. Honestly, I try a lot with women too, but what happens is that when I give a lot, they pull away. I think that maybe I’m just not meeting the right ones, and that’s why this keeps happening, because I believe that a man should be responsible for the material side of things.

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Oh, boy. This field has a very strong effect — already at the 20-second mark my chest felt lighter, and it’s like a lump was removed from my throat. Thanks, man!

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I have the Reality shifter but I actually don‘t dare to use it aswell, because I don‘t fully know what I want :man_shrugging:t5:

It sucks, because somtimes I see my dream life but it feels like I have some responsiblity to take care of first.

My Mission.

Yes this is a good start.

Jing, Qi and Shen.

These will also give you your sense of self back and awaken some dormant abilities. Plus you‘l become very magnetic and your life will be more blessed by the divine. At least that‘s how it‘s for me :grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes:

I stay far away from women, because I know exactly that I will attract the wrong one right now. It‘s because of my perception of them. I know that women can be awesome and beautiful but in my subconscious mind I see women as manipulators, so until I get rid of this belief, I will most likely attract such a woman instead of the one I really want.

This is connected to the mother a lot. You can search about the mother wound on youtube, you might resonate with the information.

Once I fix my relationship with my mother I‘ll be ready for the world of women :laughing:

You should find out what actual beliefs you hold about women. How was your ex like? Why did you give so much? What caused her to pull away? Put yourself in her shoes and see if you would have done the same!

There is one thing in the world a man will never understand.

A woman :joy:

But srsly, women and men these days are all mentally ill. But we‘ll fix that :slightly_smiling_face:

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Great! Glad it helped :grinning_face_with_smiling_eyes: credit goes to Maitreya though :joy:

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God, this concept completely blew my mind — that women are the same as my mother. I really need to think about this, but when I read it, it felt like something hit me in the head.

My mother was also an emotional manipulator and always had to get things her way, with huge scandals, and now that I think about it, my ex was exactly the same.

Damn… I’m going to reflect on this a lot. Thank you for this information.

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