A perfect person doesn’t exist because none of us is ideal, and this is okay. Perfect match is also a myth that keeps many people away from entering relationships, thinking that “Someone better will come, they don’t tick all the boxes”.
So what are your boxes?
What qualities do you want them to have?
What is a deal-breaker?
Which conditions that you listed are you willing to let go of?
What common goals do you want to have?
What do you value the most in life?
What do you want to change in yourself in order to make the relationship work?
What wound/fear/baggage do you bring with you to that relationship?
It’s not about being perfect, it’s about alignment.
I can post some of the things that were in my mind map when I was thinking about the qualities for the soulmate field.
-is spiritually open/interested
-willing to work on the relationship
-takes live easy and has humor
-likes to cook
-has somewhat similar/compatible world views
-wants to start a family some time
i can be myself with her and don’t have to play a role
negativity in the form of victimhood and complaining all the time not only do you make the matter worse by manifesting the
thing you are blaming, but you are also like a dark cloud, not very fun to be around. And also when they hate men, this one is a deal breaker. and also about her wanting to have a too lavish lifestyle.
Most of the conditions are rather nice to have, than a strict criteria. I will let the fields and the universe handle the details to find
the girl that is the best fit.
4.constantly working on ouselves spiritually. and probably having a family.
5.Stability and love.
6 being more open to different point of views.
7.To let go of the negativity I may have picked up towards women, that is all around the internet. Yes, there are women that are not
upright in their behavior, exactly like there are the same man out there. So the hard part is finding the valuable ones.
I think I changed my type drastically since I am using the Venus archetype.
Protective, carrying, loyal. Calm. Family-oriented. Not afraid of deep emotions. Kind to others. Willing to work together instead of hyper-independence. Consistent and persistent. Interested in spirituality.
Rudeness and brutality. Dislikes animals. Doesn’t want to have a family. Egoistic. Silent treatment. Ghosting.
Men who are afraid of deep emotions but are willing to work on it. He doesn’t have to have everything sorted out yet.
He doesn’t have to be spiritual like me, but curious enough so I would feel accepted with my all my psychic gifts. In fact, I would be more aligned with someone who is more grounded and practical. It helps me to anchor.
Family, but not just kids, and normal life. Creating a legacy, generating generational wealth, and raising children in a way that completely differs from the system’s demands. Create a family that is spiritually, financially, and emotionally sovereign. Not simply, not easy, but lasting. Setting the foundation for the next generations to follow.
I want him to focus on the material world. If he wants run a business I will make sure that is emotionally and energetically protected. Team work. If I run my projects he helps me by keep me grounded and we can have many streams of income but I would prioritize his, because he is a man and his ego (that can be healthy and is a part of human experience) is tied to this more than mine.
Love. In all shapes and forms. Then there is loyalty, but not blind loyalty to the family we were born to, but to the family I’m going to create. Justice. I take accountability for my actions, and I am trying to be fair.
Be softer and allow people to take care of me, instead of me doing all the work and fighting wars. Let someone lead me. I think it will all depend on the person because we all have different needs so I am willing to adapt to relationship but without loosing myself. It used to be my fear that if I will let someone to be in my life I will loose myself completely.
Fear of being too much. Too sensual, too spiritual, too emotional, too strong, but also too gentle. I am very different from even women in my circle, and even my mum says that she can’t imagine what it’s like to be me. I live between the worlds, walking paths that most people have no idea exist, and I know things that people try to hide. Nothing is normal with me. I don’t need to be understood, I need to be accepted, but humans fear what they don’t understand.