10 Reasons You Can’t Attract Your Soulmate (Yet)
Let’s be honest—attracting a soulmate isn’t just about calling in the “right person.” It’s about aligning with your soul’s deepest truth. Over the last 7 years of being single, I’ve met multiple soulmates, some deeply familiar, others wildly intense. Yet nothing lasted. I used to think I was doing something wrong. But the truth was much deeper.
Here are 10 reasons you might not be attracting—or keeping—your soulmate. Some come from my own journey, and I hope they’ll offer insight if you’re walking a similar path.
1. Your Soul Has a Contract That Must Be Fulfilled First
Sometimes we try to move forward, but our soul pulls us back—not as punishment, but because there’s something sacred that still needs to be completed. 2.5 years ago, I met someone I felt a strong soul contract with—specifically to have children. He didn’t want that, so I tried to revoke the contract (twice), but my soul didn’t allow it. This contract became a gatekeeper, blocking all other connections until I surrendered to the timing and wisdom of my soul.
2. You’ve Already Met Soulmates—But Not All Are Meant to Stay
Many people confuse soulmates with life partners. A soulmate can come to ignite, break, or awaken something in you. Their role isn’t always to stay forever—it’s to shape you. When I stopped clinging to each connection as “the one,” I started understanding the purpose behind each encounter.
3. Demonic or Energetic Interference
Yes, it’s real. Sometimes darker energies latch on to you—or your partner—and interfere with sacred unions. I’ve experienced this first-hand. When the connection is powerful and destined to bring light, interference often shows up to stop it. Protect your field. Discern what’s truly yours to carry.
4. Divine Intervention
On the flip side, sometimes a higher force steps in. You might not see it at the time, but certain delays or separations are acts of protection. I used to rage against these moments. Now I recognise them as a redirection, not a rejection.
5. Your Energy Feels Too Intense for Them
There were times I felt men literally run away from my field. My frequency was simply too much. Not because I was “too emotional” or “too spiritual,” but because I was fully me. Until someone is ready to meet that depth, they will feel overwhelmed. That’s not your fault—it’s their threshold.
6. Unresolved Father (or Mother) Wounds
I was rejected and abandoned by my biological father, and it left deep scars. But here’s the twist—in one of my soul memories, he was also my first guardian. That confusion created an imprint of “love equals abandonment,” which played out in my adult relationships. Until I started healing that root wound, I kept attracting unavailable partners.
7. You’re Still Healing Your Self-Worth
For years, I didn’t believe I was worthy of true love. I was strong, independent—and secretly terrified of being truly seen. That vibration alone creates a barrier. You don’t need to be perfect, but you do need to believe that you are enough exactly as you are.
8. Subconscious Sabotage from the Soul
This one hit me hard. Every time I met someone with real potential, something inside me sabotaged it. Not because I was afraid—but because my soul knew that the unfinished contract needed attention first. It was maddening until I understood it. Your soul always prioritises truth over comfort.
9. You’re Evolving Too Fast for Most People
Let’s be real—spiritual growth changes you rapidly. I outgrew partners in weeks. They couldn’t keep up. That’s not arrogance; it’s truth. When your inner world is expanding fast, it takes someone truly anchored to walk beside you. And until they arrive, you may need to walk alone.
10. You Haven’t Fully Surrendered Yet
The most painful lesson of all. I thought I had surrendered—but I was still holding expectations, timelines, ideas of how love should arrive. My soul was waiting for me to fully surrender—not just in words, but in trust. When I stopped trying to lead the process and allowed my soul to lead instead, the pressure lifted. I found peace, even without a partner.
I also had a huge amount of spiritual work to do that I wouldn’t have accomplished if I would be having a family. I would not risk my life. Recently, I worked with the HS Series and I got amazing information about children who are meant to come, and all my sadness vanished. Now it makes perfect sense why it didn’t happen yet. As for a future daddy, he had his own battles to fight, and what initially felt like rejection was his soul guiding him. And I’ve been known him for aeons, so I know this is how he operates. If he decides to honour this contract, I’ll be the happiest woman in the world. If not, then I hope my soul will know when is the right moment to let go. I hope because I am stubborn beyond measure lol.