Hey friends, I lately watched a netflix series called “boots”.
It’s about a gay boy, in a bootcamp from the marines.
So, what I have observed. Everytime I watch such a kind of movie or series, which is about honor and companionship, I have to cry.
Somehow my heart craves for these feelings. Living or working in companionship, overcoming physical dangerous situations, mastery and this feeling of honor, doing something that counts. But I don’t want to join the military. I don’t want to kill and also don’t hold my head for the shit governments do.. but fireworkers have kept my attention.
How is it with you, do you have some ideas to match these feelings?
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Not a guy, but integrity, honor, small acts of kindness from strangers, solidarity makes me cry.
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I think it’s very normal as it is very innate behavior. I understand how you feel about the army, but I believe that’s a big part of why men are kind of engineered to work together. Mostly it’s so we can function better as unit when we need to protect others or build something.
You can find the same kind of companionship in any place that is adjacent to that: boxing gym, martial arts, construction work, team sports etc. Anywhere that is very individualistic and career oriented is going to be missing that element. Do you have a social circle where you feel that way, or do you believe your life is missing that altogether?
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Thanks for your answers! I thought about connecting it with work. Will think and feel a little more about it. But I feel, I need this somewhere in a way, to be satisfied.
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I think what touches you in these stories isn’t the military itself, but the sense of honor, brotherhood, purpose, and shared struggle. That desire is very human.
What’s important is that there are many professions and paths centered on service to others that don’t involve killing or serving political agendas. In fact, they are about saving lives, not taking them — like firefighters, paramedics, rescue teams, humanitarian workers, medical professionals, or people who help communities in crisis.
These roles also involve companionship, discipline, physical challenge, danger, and deep trust between people — very similar to what you’re drawn to in those stories.
Have you ever thought more deeply about this distinction?
That maybe what you’re really seeking is meaning, belonging, and service, rather than the military itself?
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I always wanted to join the military as a child.
Because of my dad I think. But I don’t want it anymore. Firefighters keep my attention. I will think more about this topic and what it truly is what i want.
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