Become the Master of Your Life

It helped me a lot in breaking my conditioning related to my role in my family. I sacrificed a lot, and I always put my family first. I always responded to their needs, forgetting about myself. I realized that I am also important.

The biggest part of that was to learn that my own well-being is my responsibility, and their health and mental state is their obligation. I learned that I don’t have to be responsible for everyone. I have my own life to live, and if they decide to waste their energy in negativity and blaming others for everything, I don’t have to stay in this environment.

Of course, they didn’t like the new boundaries and me saying things aloud, but I deserve to be happy on my terms.

I allowed my family to treat me wrong only because I was conditioned to believe that family has more rights than just random people on the street. It is not true. If I would get offended by a stranger saying bad things to me, I should be equally offended if this is my family member. No more explaining toxic behaviour. “It’s my gran. I should forgive her. We are family.”

So, I am not a good girl anymore who will do everything for everyone because they are so lost and full of pain and trauma. It was their choice not to work on it and create a life full of pain. They’ve raised me to be a secret keeper and listen to their problems and complaints over and over again, and no one cared that I was overwhelmed. So, I also had a bit of a victim mentality here.

They actually love me more now and appreciate the things I did for them because my boundaries are strong. But it was hard :slight_smile:

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Does anyone know when this will be available on Patreon? I’ve tried searching for the audio on there, but couldn’t find it. @Maitreya @Genius
Also, thank you for sharing your beautiful results @Polaris. I see so much of your struggle in myself as well. Love this field :purple_heart:

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Just added. Thank you for letting us know :slight_smile:

It’s scary at the beginning. You ask yourself, “Am I rude?” but this field helped me to see things from a neutral perspective. I hope you will find your way to deal with this conditioning. We deserve to be happy :slight_smile:

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Thank you so much for your kind comment. I was always so fearful of doing and saying the wrong thing, because I grew up with a father with explosive anger that could fly off the handle at any second. So I hope that this audio can help me overcome that survival reaction eventually and teach me that the world isn’t going to end just because I set some healthy boundaries :blush:

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Wow! What a beautiful testimony, @Polaris. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and insights. I’m about to purchase this now as I feel that I need this badly in my current state. I’ve always struggled with boundaries.

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