Motto: you are the only one.
Basic desire: intimacy and experience.
Goal: to have a connection with the people, the work, and the environment he loves.
The biggest fear: to be alone, alienated, and unwanted.
Strategy: to become more attractive - physically and emotionally.
Weakness: desire to please, with the risk of losing identity.
Talent: passion, gratitude, commitment.
The lover is also: a partner, friend, intimate, enthusiast, sensitive, husband, infidel.
Hey @Maitreya something odd at Gumroad with this DM, it doesn’t allow for PayPal, I have bought a ton of DM’s paying with paypal. Today, I bought Raising Children Knowledge, Archetype Father & Shadow Integration all fine with PayPal, I bought them individually since, when I aded the lover to the cart, the PayPal option went away.
This is more of an FYI, and I will buy this later once I get money on my credit card. I just find PayPal very convenient as the money comes out of my bank account.
I think there was a general issue with Gumroad yesterday. I couldn’t download mandalas from my Library. Then, a half hour later, it was fine. Probably they do some upgrades
The Lover in his fullness, the mature Lover, allows you to connect in a healthy way with other people, the planet, and yourself.
Some qualities of the Lover archetype in men:
He lets us enter in to the flow of life, feel our connection with our vitality, and holds an awareness of life and death.
He acknowledges and celebrates connection with others and allows us to feel grief when we lose something we valued, or when we become aware of something we should have had, but which we never felt (e.g. unconditional love from mother or father).
He feels compassion, love and empathy. He softens the energy of the King archetype
The Lover is our primal archetype, the first one to grow after birth, when we seek connection with mother. That connection is about acceptance and love, and represents the natural way for each one of us to be met in the world as a baby: feeling that we are the centre of the world, and mother revolves around us, meeting our every need, and accepting our needs as they are presented.
This is the area of sensual pleasure: of bodily feeling, of the pleasure of food, touch, holding, love.
The primal satisfaction of the mother-baby connection is mirrored in the later pleasure we feel in such sensual pleasures as massage, holding and being held by a lover, sensual pleasures of food and drink, and so on.
This is the archetype that drives our search for love and relationship, i.e. connection, throughout our lives.
If we do not have good connections, or we have experienced major loss, we can carry immense grief.
This archetype seeks pleasure, satisfaction and self-indulgence. At his core, the energy of the Lover is not interested in boundaries. One of the Lover’s drives is to merge with others, to feel at one with them, as for example in the loss of self some people feel at the moment of orgasm.
I am integrating “masculine” archetypes in me also, because we have feminine and masculine energies.. and when both are balanced you are whole and you can use your whole powers. This includes shadows also.
