We’re all here to learn from another.
Shame is not a cool feeling, but(my opinion) if you feel ashamed, then you had the courage to act, although there is fear/ insecurity. Clap your shoulders man!
Regarding the safe space, i love to spam angelic fields, wasnt able to try maitreyas one(believing it’s the hit), but they are willing to help, while building trust via trial and error with requesting help, they are very good to make your space and surrounding clean and safe. Made good experiences lately.
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Here I feel a bit of giving up energy(eventually it’s only my view), if you truly accept, then it’s not like “pff fuck it, i don’t care” this has a bit of angry tonus. If you truly accept, i believe you get a hang on what you want it to be and work on that relaxed. Couldn’t say how the colors of the thoughts are in the state of acceptance. I’m on this journey myself, I can deeply recognize my inner rejection of myself and that’s the problem. From rejecting to embracing yorself as you are now, step by step and the world is yours. I wish I could rush that, but it’s worth to stay persistent. The subconciousness loses against perseverance.
Very well said, and this is truth. I’m going to create a new thread to keep this one on topic. I believe in leading by example, so I will tell you a little about my story of perseverance.
Dreams not always come true, because something better is prepared for you and to reach that you need to shed/kill/destroy the old version of yourself.
Yes, that’s true. Your point is correct. I figured if I can’t get what I want, I’ll ignore it. There’s a lot of anger mixed with sadness here. It’s like - if I can’t get attention from you, then I’ll show you that I don’t need you. It’s little complicated in my head.
It’s kind of similar, the energy of surrender to the energy of acceptance in this case. So the main difference is being relaxed instead of being angry, frustrated? I don’t understand how to accept this and what it might look like.
What does it mean? If you don’t accept a situation in life, is it because you don’t accept some part of yourself?
It’s the art of trusting the universe that everything is in the right place at the right time. It’s a big thing. How can you trust when it involves suffering?
DM: Virtues They are two Virtues there that you might find helpful.
Trust and Acceptance.
There is also a great free field: DM: Trust Issues Healing. I think it is underrated because it is free, but it does magic.
Also, have you heard about attachment styles? You sound like a Dismissive Avoidant.
Suffering is your choice. How you react is your choice. See, trust is something that we learn as kids. Most of us had a bad or even brutal childhood. You learned that you can’t trust anyone. And spiritual people often don’t even trust their own intuition.
Depending on the situation. Some things happen to us because we operate on that mindset. Some stuff are soul agreements. Some karmic. Everything is a lesson. You learn and then move to another one. Some people will need 10 years to learn how to love themselves. The other person will need 5. It is up to you.
Acceptance is like:
"Ok, my life sucks at the moment, no one loves me, including myself. It is sad, painful, annoying, I hate it. (Acknowledgement of emotions and situations.) What can I learn from this situation? (Natural state of mind or even curiosity). What steps do I need to take? What do I need to change?
Sometimes, it might take a lot of ups and downs until you complete the lesson.
So my life sucks, I feel unloved, unappreciated, invisible, scared and I want to cuddle with someone. That’s how I feel and that’s okay. I’ll give myself everything I need. When I was in front of the mirror today I said to myself, I like you and I’ll be your best friend. I feel like that’s the best thing I can do right now.
That’s why I wanted to be closer to other people so much, I wanted them to give me what I need. Love, acceptance, care, being seen, being liked. So I was looking in the wrong place. If you don’t love yourself, no one else will.
You’ve just taken a huge step @Lone_Wolf . I am sure you can feel it. It was very brave, and I know how hard it was to do it. Every word you said was a statement and realization and a beautiful promise to become your own best friend. Best friends are honest; sometimes they cuddle and support you with good words, and sometimes they will tell you things that you don’t want to hear but you should. But they show up for you, so you need to show up for yourself and find compassion and kind words you would give to your friend.
You’re no longer invisible because we can see you. You are loved, always, because the Creator never stopped.
People can love someone who doesn’t love themselves, but this person won’t be able to feel it because of the wall they have created. People can accept, care and see you, but if you don’t have it for yourself, you won’t even be able to receive that. And yes, you should give it to yourself first.
What you’ve been experiencing recently, to this extent, might just have been the dark night of the soul that always precedes a huge breakthrough and level-up.
