Hex for Fertility or Protection Turning Into Blockage
Fear of partnership; belief love is dangerous; difficulty receiving affection.
4. PSYCHOLOGICAL (TRAUMA-BASED) VOWS
(Subconscious commitments formed after emotional pain)
These are extremely common and can feel like “past-life vows” because they operate unconsciously.
Psychological Vow
Effect
“I will never love again.” (post-trauma)
Emotional shutdown; avoidance; numbness in dating.
“I will never let anyone hurt me again.”
Extreme boundaries; dismissing good partners; not letting anyone in.
“I must be perfect to be loved.”
Self-criticism; choosing unavailable or critical partners.
“I am responsible for others’ happiness.”
Enabling; codependency; exhaustion in relationships.
“Love always leads to loss.”
Fear of bonding; staying single; ending relationships early.
“I don’t deserve love.”
Sabotage; picking partners who mistreat you.
“I must stay loyal to someone from my past.”
Staying stuck on an old partner; rejecting new love.
“Relationships are dangerous.”
Physical or sexual avoidance; preferring distance.
“Others must always come first.”
Attracting takers; losing identity in relationships.
ENERGETIC PATTERNS (from metaphysical traditions: tantra, reiki, energy work, chakra models)
Energetic Pattern
Effect
Blocked Heart Chakra
Inability to feel or express love; difficulty trusting.
Blocked Sacral Chakra
Low sexual energy; difficulty attracting partners; shame around desire.
Cord Attachment to Past Partner
Still energetically “tied”; inability to connect with new people.
Energetic Imprint of Abandonment
Fear of closeness; picking rejecting partners.
Energetic Fragmentation After Trauma
Feeling incomplete; searching for savior-type partners.
Shadow Attachments
Attraction to chaotic relationships; repeating toxic patterns.
Past-Life Residual Energy of Loss
Chronic heartbreak; fear of emotional investment.
Energetic Contracts Made in Dreams / Rituals
Feeling bound to someone; difficulty disconnecting emotionally.
Familial / Ancestral Energy Blockage
Repeating patterns from parents; fear of commitment.
Ancestral Wounds & Associated Vows
Ancestral Wound
Associated Ancestral Vows / Subconscious Family Vows
1. Abandonment
“I must not depend on anyone.” • “I will leave before I’m left.” • “I am safer alone.” • “I must not attach.”
2. Rejection
“I must not show my true self.” • “I must stay invisible.” • “I am not allowed to ask for love.” • “I must not burden anyone.”
3. Betrayal
“I must control everything.” • “I must not trust partners.” • “I will never let anyone close enough to hurt me.” • “I must stay loyal to family, not partners.”
4. Humiliation
“My desires are dangerous.” • “I must be small to stay safe.” • “I must not express sexuality.” • “Love requires self-sacrifice.”
5. Injustice
“I must be perfect.” • “I don’t deserve ease in love.” • “I must earn love through effort.” • “I must not show weakness.”
6. Exclusion / Family Ban / Exile
“I don’t belong.” • “I am not allowed to form my own family.” • “Partnership leads to loss of belonging.” • “I must stay loyal to those who were excluded.”
You can use Soul Contract Revocation [DM + Audio] with the intention to dissolve the vows and promises you have made, and focus your attention on the mandala.
You can also set the intention to dissolve vows that prevent you from loving, being loved, or that stop you from having a partner.
Among the vows listed in this topic, you will feel a stronger reaction to certain ones — pay attention to them, and you can even perform a muscle test to determine whether you carry that vow.
Let’s also include vows created through magical rituals — for example in ancient Egypt, Druidic magic, and other traditions where, during a wedding, a shaman or magician performed a ritual spell that bound the two souls together forever.
This is known as an eternal marriage vow, which can later prevent a person from loving someone else or finding suitable partners with whom they can have a real relationship.
If someone feels this applies to them, you can let me know, and I will create an energetically programmed field to dissolve this type of magic.
People who are bound together but do not love each other may separate as a result.
If a person has such a vow and is in a relationship with the soul they made it with, but throughout their life they are unhappy, resent each other, yet cannot separate because something always stops them — that may be due to this vow.
Energetic marriages with previous partners or important people from your past
A man may have an energetic marriage with his mother.
A woman may have an energetic marriage with her father.
This happens when one of the parents is absent (even energetically), and if the remaining parent needs support — for example, if the mother is struggling, she may energetically turn her child into her partner and burden them with her problems, energies, expect them to be responsible, solve her issues, take care of their siblings, and so on.
It can also occur with previous partners with whom we had a very strong bond. If we made future plans together but things didn’t work out, our energetic system may have bonded with the other person and may not release them for a lifetime — or only after many years.
In fact, when partners separate and one of them had deep love, the emotional pain comes from the energetic system tearing away the energy the partner gave us; it tries to free itself from it, and this can crack the emotional body.
We can also have an energetic marriage with someone we were never in a relationship with, but whom we were deeply, intensely in love with, wishing to be together (unrequited love).
Thank you for this knowledge. I’ve done most of it.
Most of ancestral is gone.
I used Soul Contract on both of them many times. I used every cord cutting I could invent. I used elemental energy, too. I used Release Karmic, also the one for fake Twin Flames and bonds that is on Facebook. I don’t know the way to cut my Twin off and also the other one is either my Twin and they’re one soul in two incarnations or I need something stronger. A grenade maybe. It is a sacred marriage with one of them for sure, but no matter how deeply I clear it I still have deep feelings. I begged my Higher Self, too.
So either my HS is stupidly in love, or I have unfinished business that my HS wants to finish. A grenade, please
I had a couple of lingering ones which I revoked using this list. I had a ton of bad dreams and dream state attacks but not at the scale I used to have before. I have an extra surge of energy and joy after clearing. Using the Northern Shaman alongside would be helpful.
