We often talk about “healing” and “inner work” as concepts, but how does it actually show up in daily life? Sometimes it’s not dramatic at all – it’s sending that text you used to avoid, choosing a kinder word, or not repeating an old pattern. I’d love to explore the small, real‑life ways healing shows itself.
What are some practical signs that you’ve truly healed something (or are healing it)?
Can you share a before/after example of how you react differently now in a similar situation?
Do you think healing is ever “finished”, or is it more like layers over time?
For me healing is for example when something that bothered you in the past, does not trigger you anymore.And I think there there is an end to healing, but intil then it’s layers over time. It depends on how devoted the person is and what tools he/she uses.
I used to be a very serious child and person, didn’t laugh or play much. Activities like sharing tea with a friend or pushing someone in the pool as a prank would seriously irritate me previously. I will not say I am completely healed yet, but I find it much more easy to relax and be playful and happy even with friends. Silly joy which I used to judge is an important part of my life now. I incorporate more of “meaninglessly joyful” things in life now. This has come as a result of healing the inner child and letting go of judgments and being in the flow. Humor, joyfulness, sociability and connection have been helpful virtues to integrate.
I am used to emotional off-loading by people. When I was young I used to absorb it, then I became a dark wall, after that I became a poky wire, then I was a preachy preacher for a while and now I am a patient non-absorbing listener. I think that’s healing but there is more ways to go. Boundaries, self-worth, tactfulness, empath protection was really helpful towards this end.
Due to childhood SA, my psyche was pretty ruptured. I turned to drugs, and a pretty strong and sometimes kinky sexual appetite while in a relationship after that. Then I took a complete break and deeply disconnected from my sexual energy as well as creative energy. Now that I am actively working on it I can invite in the sexual side of me without giving into wayward things. I also realized at all levels that I didn’t need a partner to feel sexual and channelize that energy. This has come as a result of soul retrieval, shadow work and lots of patience and acceptance.
Healing is an ongoing spiral imho.
I have many more I can think of, but it’s all small every day things. The shift inside feels huge, the daily acts so small, but they add up and life becomes a blooming garden again.
I could write about my healing journey for a very long time. I actually write a lot about it in my reviews
But here’s what I think about healing.
It’s definitely about layers.
Imagine a healing wound: first it’s sharp and open, then a scab forms, then a tender scar that fades with time. It might ache when the weather changes (a trigger), but it’s not an open wound anymore. You heal one issue, and life brings you the next, deeper one. It’s not running in circles, it’s moving upward in a spiral.
Perhaps there will come a moment when even the deepest layers of our ego are healed. And then… the very idea of needing to heal will disappear.
And a natural state of wholeness will appear.
Instead of a constant process of “fixing” yourself, a natural state of wholeness will arise-not as a goal, but as a starting point. Your actions will come not from a sense of lack, but from abundance; not from a desire to become better, but from the simple and joyful expression of who you already are. Defense mechanisms will fall away because they’re no longer needed, like a shell after a bird has hatched.
The inner voice that was once full of judgment and fear will become a quiet, clear space-or it will fall completely silent, making room for direct knowing.
This won’t be the end of the path, but the beginning of moving in a completely different way: in full, effortless connection with the world, without the wounded self as a middleman.
