“Love and light” can sometimes hide a lot of pain we don’t want to look at. Spiritual bypassing is when we use spiritual ideas or practices to avoid dealing with uncomfortable emotions, trauma, or real‑life responsibilities. It’s easy to see in others… but harder to notice in ourselves. Let’s talk about it honestly, without judgment.
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Have you ever realized, “Oh, I’m using spirituality to avoid something”? What was it?
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What are some red flags for you that you might be bypassing instead of healing?
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What helped you come back to a more grounded, honest approach to your inner work?
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All world is mental and thoughts create our reality is something that is true yet should not be applied indiscriminately.
It was used on me and I have used it on other people. At some point in my journey, I was really wary of interacting with family and could not take their negativity. Either I would put boundaries (bad boundaries where they could not feel I love them) or I would ask them continuously to see things in a different way. It does not work, if somebody has gone through something that impacted multiple layers charge on it needs to be processed to be let go. It’s true that if you walked for a while, it’s quicker and quicker and sometimes not even necessary and purely a thought shift switches all, but before that point is reached such words are mostly toxic positivity and inability to stay grounded in love and watch negativity as it floats through.
Everything that shows up in your life shows something that you need to heal.
This is incorrect in my experience till date, sometimes beings, humans or not humans just meaninglessly push things.
Unconditional love is the answer to all
It is the best answer out there, but unconditional love does not mean unconditional tolerance and unconditional love includes you as much as others. Forgive your abuser, learn the lesson etc, sure but you don’t have to allow the actor of the abuse into your life. This ideal extended too far ends up harming people. To be spiritual you don’t have to be spineless. But as always, balance is the key.
I recognize it by feeling into a still empty space in my body. If I can still feel parts of me inside the charge, but my mind is giving a different story it means I am using ideology to dissociate.
If my loving is coming from exertion not radiance, I am forcing myself to be loving.
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