Unconditional love and blessings can be sent without the person’s consent — they will enter automatically if the person is open and subconsciously receptive to these energies. There are many people (and non-human beings) who, when sent unconditional love, it simply flows around their aura and goes into the space without actually entering them. But you can still send it.
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All they need is strong emotion. Yesterday, my dad came back home angry and he told me that he wishes me that I will not have any kids, because I spoiled my dog. If not protections I would have a problem.
People don’t pay attention to what they say and think.
My ex blocked my dating life just by strong “I don’t want her to be with someone else”.
I noticed this with fields, too, because all of them are made with unconditional love. My grandma is on mandalas, and they don’t really work on her, because she is full of hatred and keeps choosing to be a suffering martyr every day. She enjoys suffering so much
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But what if we just have fleeting thoughts without strong emotion?
I can‘t always have positive thoughts about someone, but I don‘t always have strong negative emotions about them.
Just simple thoughts like: „What an idiot“
For example
Is this enough to attack someone?
I do think people catch on those if their radar is fine tuned. Every thought has a form and it lives in our aura. Now all attacks are not the same- a pin vs butter knife vs machete, but it’s still there.
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Everything gets registered, but of course, when there’s emotion involved, the influence is much stronger. But the person subconsciously knows that you think he’s an idiot, and that activates programs in him that work against you. For example, if you hired him to renovate your bathroom — if he’s a bit of a shady person, he might mess up the tiles and the water will start leaking into your apartment. And then you’ll say, “See, I knew he was an idiot — look what he did with the renovation.” But in reality, you were the one who activated those programs in him from the start. Hahaha.
I’m not saying that we’re always to blame, but we do have influence over how others will behave toward us — especially if they’re unconscious.
There’s a much lower chance of something like that happening with people who are more conscious, self-controlled, and have a well-developed value and emotional system. Even if they sense that you’re sending them certain vibes, it’s more important to them to do their job well, so they’ll activate the programs related to professionalism, doing things properly, and so on.
Without offending anyone — people with an IQ of 120 and above are less likely to be influenced by your thoughts. The lower the IQ, the more likely they are to be affected by your thoughts about them, and you’ll trigger those programs in them.
Again, I’m not saying that just 1–2 thoughts can cause such big changes, but if that energy is constantly being projected at them… then it happens. These are actually thought-forms, and we’ve created a field. When such a thought-form forms around a person — they can literally become more foolish because they’re being projected upon as an idiot.
I know of a few cases of kids with low grades, whose parents thought they weren’t doing well or were a bit dumb — and when that thought-energy was removed from the kids’ field, their academic performance greatly improved.
We should, as much as possible, choose to communicate with people we actually like, and also expand our own worldview of what is possible. We should realize that people have different perspectives, different paths, missions, and goals — and give them the space to be who they are, without constantly trying to correct them in our thoughts. We actually know nothing about others and what’s supposed to happen in their lives, and it’s foolish to judge in 90% of cases.
If we have a joint project with someone — it’s better to hire someone we like more, even over a professional we don’t really like. That will bring better results for us, we’ll be more in sync in the work, and the people’s energetic systems will complement each other, leading to a better outcome than we even expected.
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reat explanation thank you!
I’ve come to a deep understanding: in every situation and interaction, we’re never really dealing with other people — we’re always dealing with our own beliefs and inner patterns.
For example, after doing some kind of deep inner work, all the old “junk” rises to the surface in your energy field and starts interacting with the world.
Let’s say, on the same day:
You do some inner cleansing — then suddenly drop a glass, spill some salt, your washing machine leaks, you step outside and witness a small accident, then you argue with someone, and on top of that, 8 out of 10 traffic lights turn red and your trip takes 40 minutes instead of the usual 15.
This is a personal experience.
At first, I didn’t think much of it. But then it hit me:
All of that was the reflection of my inner state and beliefs manifesting through resonance.
With people it’s even more obvious: we don’t actually talk or interact with them — we interact with our own beliefs through them.
So how to discover these hidden beliefs and patterns?
The process is multilayered, but it starts with observing how you feel in a specific situation.
Let’s say you’re dealing with government authorities and you feel powerless, like a victim with no control. That feeling is your pattern.
You see them as a big machine, and yourself as small and helpless.
The same thing often happens in relationships with a father.
To neutralize such a pattern, you simply need to see it.
Turn on your inner observer and realize — it’s not the situation that’s the problem, it’s your belief speaking to you.
If someone says something hurtful — that’s your belief.
If someone blames you — it’s your own guilt being mirrored back at you.
It’s never really about the “other”.
You’re always interacting with your own beliefs.
There are two main layers to this work:
- Seeing and acknowledging that what’s happening is based on a belief.
- Interpreting what’s happening in a new way.
For example, you receive a bill:
Old reaction:
“Oh no, not again. More money going out. When will it stop? I’m running out of money.”
This creates the vibration: “I don’t have enough,” and the world starts reflecting that back to you.
New reaction:
“Expenses are a form of appreciation.”
I’m paying for services I received. I’m grateful. This payment allows others to receive salaries, buy food for their kids, and bring them joy.
Bills are just invitations to express gratitude.
Every payment is an act of appreciation.
This kind of mindset is creative.
It shifts your state and your energy.
Instead of feeling tight and stressed when you see a bill — you feel joy. And that joy starts creating more joyful experiences.
To consciously shape your reality, you simply need to keep observing.
Notice what belief is playing out — and realize: this isn’t something to take too seriously. Don’t fall into the “hypnosis of reality”.
Yes, people say and do things — but even if it seems like you can’t change anything in the moment, remember:
Reality isn’t here for you to “do” something — it’s here to reflect what’s already vibrating inside you.
Trying to act from old patterns often feels like banging your head against a wall.
Observation lets you stay free — like a player in a game, not a prisoner of your reality.
Because it’s not “real” in the way we think — it’s just your belief showing up.
Change the belief — and the entire situation can shift radically in your favor.
P.S. If you keep feeling like a victim in your relationship with your father, you’ll keep creating events where you feel that same way.
What must I be thinking about myself, about my child, about my father, about the dog, about the world, and about everything… for my own father to wish that I never have children — just because I “spoiled my dog”?
What kind of beliefs must I be holding for that to happen?
Now it’s time to see those beliefs,
to gently release them,
to nurture new ones,
to grow new feelings,
and then simply watch how reality — and people — begin to shift.
What if you start generating new feelings instead?
What if you could feel deeply cared for and loved?
What would it be like to truly feel like a beloved daughter — with a father who would do anything to see her happy in their relationship?
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@anon72404465 If I think of you as a neurotic person with an inflated ego, you’ll start acting that way with me — simply reflecting my own triggers and inner beliefs.
But if I choose to see you differently, your reaction to me will also change.
We actually have the power to “create” people in our reality through the way we perceive them.
The highest level of perception is when we elevate others in our mind to the level of a god, a creator, a limitless being — someone who can do absolutely anything.
This kind of perception has a powerful impact on the person.
It uplifts them in all areas of life.
Things start working out for them.
They start to truly shine.
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@anon72404465 Pay attention to one more thing — I just felt called to write this.
How do you react when someone teaches you, gives you advice, tells you what to do, or how to do it “the right way”?
There’s a chance you start boiling inside, feeling resistance…
Take a closer look at this moment.
Observe your reaction.
Notice the emotions that come up.
Study it — if you feel like it, of course.
What inner beliefs could be creating this kind of response?
Is it connected to a specific gender?
Are you maybe projecting someone else’s image onto the person in front of you?
PS: Hint: this might happen with men who are older than you. 
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@Hero Thank you.
Your post wasn’t directed at me but directly helped me. I was having a recurring issue regarding unmet expectations coming up with my father, I could feel the anger in myself every time it came up. I used the Divine father healing and used a shadow work deck. The prompt that came up was- What do you need to come to peace with?
Reflection:
People are allowed to have expectations of me and it’s not necessary for me to fulfill all of those if it requires me to completely loose myself, sacrifice my path or let go of my joy. Be a sage warrior not a martyr.
When we are first setting boundaries, it feels foreign and there arises a lot of anger from inside because it’s the part of a self that did never set boundaries (or know the path) and was a nice people pleaser both due to lack of information and confusion.
At the end of the day it’s not the outer father the teenager is revolting against but a outdated father identity inside oneself and while it may seem agonizing at first, it’s okay to let the identity to dissolve, to let a more wholesome identity emerge, one that is more aware of the choices on offer and has the knowledge to take informed decisions and standing their ground. In turn the father identity evolves and a new harmonious engagement is established.
meta-Reflection: The inner landscape is full of identities working with each other and with time more and more of it comes into coherence.
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For the highest good 
If we don’t realize that we are the creators of our own reality, then when other people have expectations of us — and we don’t meet them — we start to feel guilty. In close relationships, this guilt can go really deep.
But if we become aware that we are the ones creating our relationships — by choosing what to focus on, what to think about the other person, how to imagine them, and what emotions to feel — then we can step out of the victim mindset.
And when we do that, we don’t even need any tools. Because the most powerful tool is me — the creator — who shapes everything around me through my focus, perception, and inner state.
I don’t have victim mentality but I still have that problem with expectations. When my dad yelled at me, I felt that I disappointed him. My dad is wounded masculine, old slavic style and my dog is a boy, hence the issue. Every time my dog shows empathy, gentleness, and he is very caring, my dad calls him p*ssy. It triggered me, because I will have sons in the future and I fear being a bad mother and what if I make them too soft? But in what standards? And hey, I expect their father to be involved and teach them masculinity while I teach them how to connect with emotions.
But on that day I had occasion to see what Venus field does, because we ended up having a conversation and I asked my dad to tell me what of my dog’s behaviour made him angry. I also reminded him that me and my sister were raised in the same way and we are completely different. We both talked calmly and agreed that everyone is different. My dog represents different types of masculinity, and I don’t want to force him to be a dominant alpha; it is not right.
I don’t have resistance. They’re people I ask for advice because I trust their wisdom. However, I have a strong rejection when I am patronised by someone who clearly has no idea about the subject.
I am less prone to listen to women, lol. My mum, gran and aunt always have had a lot of say about everything and very opinionated.
As for men older than me, I actually listen to what they say more carefully than women. Which is interesting to see now. My mum always complains that she has no authority in my eyes, and I almost never agree with her.
One of my lessons, too.
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You keep complaining — about your dad, about people, about your exes.
You’re stuck in stories you made up yourself.
But the truth is — your perception is an illusion. You choose how to interpret things.
You focus on the negative, and it grows — you’re literally creating more negativity in your present and future without even realizing it.
You constantly put your attention on imaginary stories that don’t even matter right now.
But life only ever happens in the present.
Still, many people try to explain today’s problems using the past — and that’s just another illusion.
The past doesn’t control you. That’s just an excuse.
I’ve worked with a lot of people.
When I ask them, “How did you become so successful?”, I often hear two kinds of answers:
Answer 1: “I had a supportive family. I got a good education. We always had money. I was loved. I had no other choice but to succeed.”
Answer 2: “We were broke. My dad drank and beat my mom and me. I didn’t even finish school. I had no other choice but to succeed.”
Two completely different pasts — but the same result. Why?
Because both made a choice.
A choice to focus, to feel, to act from a certain place in the present moment.
The past didn’t shape their future — their decisions in the now did.
It’s only the mind that tries to explain failure by pointing to the past.
And even right now — you’re resisting.
You don’t notice it, but you’re choosing resistance.
You’re feeling it, feeding it, embodying it — and creating more of it.
That’s how unconscious creation works.
But there’s another way.
You could ask:
“What if this person could actually be a gift to my life?”
You could drop your walls — and energy would start flowing.
And that energy would begin to transform the parts of you that are ready to shift.
Because, deep down, you’re already asking for it.
And then — bam — you’ll have an insight. A real “wow”.
You won’t even realize it came from here.
But this answer — what I’m telling you right now — it’s not random.
It’s a reflection of the question you’re holding deep inside.
Like when the right book, or quote, or course just shows up out of nowhere —
You created this moment. You created me. You created this answer.
Because you were asking for healing in your relationships.
I asked you this question for a reason —
Because this is your key to loving relationships — with yourself and with men.
You’ve got unconscious beliefs about your dad. You keep replaying them in your head,
and that’s exactly what’s shaping your relationship with him — moment by moment.
You think he’s the problem — but no, it’s the way you see him.
You’re holding onto old stories, and they’re just illusions.
And here’s the kicker:
You’re projecting your feelings about your dad onto other older men.
That’s why you attract the same kind of relationships again and again.
But the moment you become aware of these beliefs — and choose to feel, think, and respond differently —
you’ll stop projecting that negativity onto all the men who remind you of your father.
You’ll stop pushing away the kind of men you actually want.
Because here’s the truth:
Men who don’t judge themselves won’t even show up for women who are judging men.
It just doesn’t match.
Now imagine this:
You’re in the center of a big glowing sphere.
And that sphere reflects back everything you believe, think, and feel.
Right now, there are no dream men in your sphere —
Not because they don’t exist, but because you’re pushing them away with your beliefs.
You’re scaring them off — not on purpose, but energetically.
Your vibration around older men is saying “stay away”,
so the only ones who get close are those who echo the same abuse your father gave you.
You’re the one creating this. Every second.
By choosing what to focus on, what to feel, what to believe.
And you know what?
You are crazy powerful.
You can create entire worlds with your attention, your feelings, your perception.
You don’t need mandalas, or shamans, or full moon rituals, or tarot cards, or crystals, or energy clearings.
You don’t need any of it.
You just haven’t fully realized your power yet.
You’re not letting your feminine strength fully rise inside you — because you still feel small.
You think some “external energy” is stronger than you — but no. It’s not.
You choose to feel weak. You choose to feel afraid. You choose to feel powerless.
But your real self — is the Empress from the tarot deck.
And I’m not talking about a card on the table.
Feel that power in your bones — without any tools, without any rituals.
You are like a wild, unstoppable river…
But right now, you act like a dried-up stream because of something you think happened in the past. Something someone said, something your dad did — and you made that moment the blueprint of your entire life.
But here’s the thing:
When someone truly feels strong inside — they don’t go looking for strength.
When someone feels safe — they don’t need protective rituals or mandalas.
When someone feels happy in his relationship with herself doesn’t go looking for happiness in a partner — the right relationship shows up naturally, by resonance.
So here’s your invitation:
Change the way you feel about yourself.
Change the emotions you hold toward your father — right now.
Change the emotions you hold toward men — right now.
Make them what you wish they were.
And practice that daily.
You’ll be shocked how your life, your relationship with your dad, and your connection with men will start to glow.
The men around you will start to change — because they’ll be different men.
Men of a different energy.
You’re not faking anything.
You’re not doing “positive thinking.”
You’re stepping into conscious creation —
Choosing what to feel, what to believe, what to attract, and what to allow.
And that changes everything.
PS: What am I not aware of — that if I became aware of it, would radically change my relationship with myself, my father, and men?
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Some of your words landed, some didn’t. Not everything can be explained with a father wound.
That men are weak. And this is a collective belief. Not only ancestral but also global. Especially in Western Europe. I will check how it feels in Eastern Europe soon. Like with every revolution, this one is full of chaos because patriarchy is losing its dominion over women after centuries, and neither males nor females know how to adapt yet. Me included. I’m very clumsy in that
This is not just a father wound or a mother wound, Hero, this is a global recalibration of dynamics to create something new.
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If you see men as weak, you’ll keep finding proof of that in life.
If you see them as strong, you’ll also find proof of that.
With the perception of a strong woman, you can make any man weak and spineless.
But why do that, when you can actually get so many benefits from being with strong men?
In a couple, there’s always balance. Yin and Yang. Harmony.
If one person has more masculine energy, the other will naturally have more feminine energy. Always. It’s always a two-sided thing.
If a woman complains that her man is childish, it usually means she has a need to be a “mommy” and that’s how she fulfills it.
Often, women subconsciously make men weak so they won’t cause pain—because they confuse masculine strength with aggression. It’s like a subconscious defense mechanism against aggression, which is linked to violence.
But these are just inner beliefs and patterns.
I’m from Eastern Europe too.
I also have family stories of weak men who survived thanks to strong women, where the woman was the main figure. My mother is a very dominant woman, and naturally, I got caught up in that whole dynamic too.
But all of this is basic stuff, and it stops influencing you once you realize that being strong or weak is your own choice—your feelings, your mindset, your decisions.
Don’t explain or look for reasons.
You’re the creator, so create yourself and everyone around you every second, by diving into your feelings. If you stay in a new state long enough, all the old patterns will surface, and you’ll see and understand them.
I recommend going on a couple of dates with men who you find unpleasant or even repulsive. You’ll learn a lot about yourself just by observing your own thoughts.
I don’t think it is nice to go on a date with someone just to use them for my observation purposes. It doesn’t seem right.
However, I am working on changing the belief that men are weak. It was a good question you asked, which brought this up to the surface. Thank you.
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Why? Because you should be good and right for others?
What if you add a little play, fun, lightness and joy to your life?
PS: What energies am I not letting into my life that, if I did, would make it such an exciting adventure that I would be surprised at how easy, fun and joyful life can be?
No, I have no problem with that. But going for a date with a man I don’t find attractive, even repulsive, just to “check my thoughts” is not kind. People go on dates with specific intentions. The last thing I want is to use a man who finds me attractive, pays for the dinner, just to get him rejected. I don’t treat others the way I don’t want to be treated
I added. I dance. I laugh. I enjoy food without guilt. I talk to strangers Simple pleasures.
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Now you see how your inner beliefs are reflected in reality
You can just go on dates to let men simply enjoy your beauty and your energy, and just have fun yourself ))
After all, they’ve seen beautiful women only in pictures )))
Especially those that you won’t like )