Another important part of healing your relationship with your parents is understanding that we constantly look for their love and approval in other people.
Because of this, we often get involved in situations and projects we would never normally choose - and we do it only to receive that approval. But the only approval we are truly looking for is the approval of our parents.
If our relationships with our parents were whole and healed, we wouldn’t enter so many unnecessary situations, businesses, relationships, or collaborations. Many times we start doing something just to hear that we are good, valuable, appreciated, and loved.
One key indicator I discovered over the years is our reaction to receiving (or not receiving) gratitude. If you do something and then feel hurt because no one thanked you, it’s a clear sign that you were doing it for recognition. And deep down, you are actually seeking recognition from your parents.
Freedom from this need is exactly the fundamental quality that healed relationships with parents give us.
I am so happy for you @Hero@Lady_Nikki and thank you for sharing your journey with us. I think everyone here will benefit from that a lot
My relationship with my parents changed drastically. I almost don’t remember that I had a rough childhood, because everything is different now. So when the change goes deep to the root, you’re living in a completely different reality. No family is perfect; we can make mistakes in raising our children, too. This was once my biggest fear, and I think on a subconscious level, I blocked my fertility. Many couples who are aware of ancestral patterns often don’t have kids, not because of biological disturbances, but because they are afraid to make mistakes.
Could you please explain me what the difference is between this field and The Divine Father. I purchased The Divine Father. But I read very impressive testimonials here in this topic and may be I need to buy Receiving the Father too. I was grown up without father or anybody replacing him so saying briefly I feel more vulnerable or indecisive in some situations. Also I t hink that his absence affected my health, stability, wealth compared to people who grew up in families with fathers. Thank you.
The Divine Father is a field that brings us into contact with our spiritual father and gives us love, qualities, protection, and other gifts through consciously strengthening our connection, with the field acting as a catalyst.
Receiving the Father is about our earthly father in our current incarnation — helping us heal and resolve our relationship with him. When this relationship is not healed, we experience many problems in life: as women, we may be afraid of men; we may be unable to manifest, lack a sense of security and safety in our bodies, be unable to develop our mission and purpose, struggle to make money, and many other issues.
But the most important thing of all is that when we heal the relationship with our father, the ENTIRE ENERGY of his lineage flows into us — thousands of ancestors going back in time, bringing enormous strength and resources.
Had this one and receiving the mother in my folder for 4 months now and exchanged them with sacred masculinity and the burden of the feminine ancestors field. Because I felt it doesn’t do much more for me, but when I read your post, I get the feeling I didn’t sought up all the power of my father ancestores. Will think about it more!
Fields remove negative energy and incorrect flowing of energies. But to change your relationship with your parents, you need to change your perception consciously.
I have written many times that everything you think about your parents and other people is reflected back to you by them.
You need to consciously change your beliefs and attitudes toward your parents.
For example, when you work with fields, you do not automatically change your beliefs.
Let’s say you think, “I don’t love my mother” or “My mother always manipulates me.”
This belief stays inside you and continues to affect you. As a result, your mother keeps manipulating you, because this is how you see her.
But if you consciously start putting in thoughts like “My mother is kind to me,” “I love my mother,” “My mother is healthy,” “She never complains,” she will begin to behave exactly this way toward you.
That is why energies and mandalas are important, but conscious change of how you perceive your mother or father is even more important.
If you change the energy but keep behaving in the same old way, very little will change.
You need to change how you see yourself, your role, and your parents.
Have you already found the main reasons why this is happening to you?
Have you made a natal chart to become aware of and understand the context of your relationships with your parents?
If you understand this, many things can be changed.
It is also very important to realize that we make conclusions on our own, and these conclusions start to influence us.
We often create stories about our past - why certain things are happening to us right now. With these stories, we justify our current problems.
But once we change how we see the past, the present begins to change.
For example, the conclusions you made about your childhood directly affect your life today.
“I grew up without a father, so I can’t realize myself in society.”
“I grew up without a father, so I had no other choice but to take care of my family and become successful.”
These two conclusions can create two completely different lives, because in the first case you explain and justify your failures, and in the second case - your successes.
Can we work through subconscious programmer to change the beliefs quickly? What are your suggestion on this. By the way your posts are inspiring. Thanks.
You can always work with the subconscious programmer for anything you wish to change. However, in general, the fields are created in a way that helps you automatically, over time, to replace your beliefs and perspectives. In essence, they continuously provide you with new, correct energy that gradually replaces the old energies and belief structures within you—one could even say in a mildly forceful way.
Of course, if you also work consciously and independently, actively engaging your awareness in the process, the change will happen much faster.
Maitreya has already given an answer, but I would like to add my own observations based on personal experience.
Behind every belief and mindset there are always certain emotions and feelings.
Fields can remove charged beliefs, as well as the emotions and feelings connected to them.
However, I have not noticed fields creating or “loading” new emotions that stand behind a certain state or belief.
For example, you can load the belief “I am attractive” using a reprogrammer.
But if you repeat this phrase to yourself several times, you will feel a change in your inner state and a rise of that inner attractiveness.
This applies to other states as well.
I have not observed that programming new beliefs with fields gives a person the corresponding feelings and sensations behind those new beliefs.
You can do an experiment by loading, for example, 50 beliefs related to the statement “I am sexy.”
Then try repeating the phrase “I am incredibly sexy” to yourself 10 times.
In the second case, with conscious repetition, you will feel an inner change of state - those very feelings that stand behind these words, behind the phrase “I am incredibly sexy.”
and thank you for sharing your journey with us. I think everyone here will benefit from that a lot